<p>#304: Is being too “realistic” keeping you stuck?</p><p>This week, I’m getting into something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: how being “realistic” can actually be a form of shrinking our goals to fit our fears.</p><p>In this solo episode, I’m unpacking why being realistic isn’t always the wise or grounded choice it’s made out to be, and how it might actually be self-sabotage disguised as protection.</p><p>I also share some mindset shifts that have helped me stop shrinking my goals to fit what feels “safe” and start thinking bigger again—without spiraling into overwhelm. If you’ve ever talked yourself out of something because it felt too bold or too unlikely, this one’s for you.</p><p>In this episode, I talk about:</p><ul><li>Why “being realistic” can be a trap</li><li>How I’ve noticed it showing up in my own life</li><li>What to do when your big goals start to feel too far away</li><li>The difference between grounded strategy and self-sabotage</li><li>Encouragement to stop playing small and dream a little bigger</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Resources:</p><ul><li>Follow me on IG <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lesalfred" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@lesalfred</a></li><li>Follow She’s So Lucky on IG <a href="https://www.instagram.com/shessoluckypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@shessoluckypod</a></li><li>Follow me on TikTok <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@balancedles" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@balancedles</a></li><li>Follow She’s So Lucky on TikTok <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@shessoluckypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@shessoluckypod</a></li><li>Download my free <a href="https://shessolucky.kit.com/bestcase" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Best Case Scenario Journal Template</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Sponsors:</p><ul><li>Nutrafol: Get stronger, healthier hair with Nutrafol. For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering $10 OFF your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to <a href="http://nutrafol.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">nutrafol.com</a> and enter promo code BALANCEDLES.</li><li>Shopify: Start your online business with Shopify. Sign up for your $1 per month trial at <a href="http://shopify.com/balancedblackgirl" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">shopify.com/balancedblackgirl</a>.</li><li>Simply Pop is a new fruit-forward bevy of prebiotic sodas with 6 grams of fiber. Go to <a href="http://cokeurl.com/simplyPOP" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">cokeurl.com/simplyPOP</a> to find out where you can try it.</li><li>The Real Real: The Real Real is attainable luxury that upgrades your personal style. Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to <a href="http://therealreal.com/lucky" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">therealreal.com/lucky</a>.</li><li>Function: Take charge of your health through lab testing with Function. Visit <a href="http://functionhealth.com/lucky" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">functionhealth.com/lucky</a> or use the gift code LUCKY for a $100 credit towards your membership.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><em>Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.</em></p><p><br></p><p>Produced by <a href="https://dearmedia.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Dear Media</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.</p>