<p>We discuss why it’s useful to identify the "ugliest thing" in your life—i.e., what aspect needs the most attention? We also share an easy hack about enhancing family memories, and we explore a Four-Tendencies situation involving a young-adult son's surprising reaction to his father's lateness. We wrap up with listener suggestions for creative before-and-after photo books.</p> <p><strong>Resources & links related to this episode:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Order your copy of <a href="http://happiercast.com/secrets"><em>Secrets of Adulthood</em></a></li> <li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-urban-governance/id1794619189?i=1000713365708"><em>After Hours</em> <em>with Jamie Rubin</em></a> podcast</li> <li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/four-tendencies/">The Four Tendencies</a> </li> <li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/">Take The "Four Tendencies" Quiz</a></li> <li><a href="https://thehappierapp.com/">Download the <em>Happier</em> app</a></li> <li>Elizabeth is reading: <em>Climbing in Heels</em> by Elaine Goldsmith-Thomas (<a href="https://amzn.to/44p5OJI">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9781250274786">Bookshop</a>) </li> <li>Gretchen is reading: <em>Two Serious Ladies</em> by Jane Bowles (<a href="https://amzn.to/4kizyOm">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780062283122">Bookshop</a>)</li> </ul> <p><br>Get in touch: <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a></p> <p>Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/"> Gretchen's website</a> to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the <em>Happier </em>app.</p> <p>Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>