<p><strong>What if you could rewrite the code of your personality—on command?</strong> Not just <em>cope</em> with anxiety, overthinking, or social exhaustion… but <em>delete</em> the traits holding you back and install better ones? </p><p>This episode challenges everything you’ve been told about identity. Dave dives deep into the science of personality change to reveal why your habits, moods, triggers, and even sense of self aren’t fixed—they’re fluid. And more importantly: they’re up for grabs. </p><p>Joining him is award-winning journalist from The Atlantic, Olga Khazan, author of <em>Me, But Better</em>, who spent years hacking her own mind—transforming high neuroticism, social avoidance, and chronic self-criticism into calm, confidence, and connection. Her personal experiment in identity rewiring became a roadmap for anyone who wants to feel different… and live differently. </p><p>You’ll uncover the hidden mechanisms behind neuroticism, reactivity, and emotional spirals—and how to override them with real-time upgrades. </p><p><br></p><p><strong>What You’ll Learn in This Episode:</strong> </p><p>• Why your personality is a <em>program</em>—and how to recode it </p><p>• What daily behaviors scientifically rewire anxiety, anger, and reactivity </p><p>• The surprising link between identity, inflammation, and your gut </p><p>• Why gratitude isn’t soft—it’s neurological jiu-jitsu </p><p>• How to know if it’s your <em>biology</em> or your <em>story</em> running the show </p><p>• Whether pills, psychedelics, or sleep do more to shift who you are </p><p>• What to do when your inner critic won’t shut up </p><p>• And how to stop being the person you never meant to become </p><p><br></p><p>SPONSORS </p><p>-LMNT | Free LMNT Sample Pack with any drink mix purchase by going to <a href="https://drinklmnt.com/DAVE" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://drinklmnt.com/DAVE</a>.  </p><p>-Leela Quantum Tech | Head to <a href="https://leelaq.com/DAVE" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://leelaq.com/DAVE</a> for 10% off. </p><p> </p><p><strong>Resources:</strong>  </p><p>• <strong>Olga’s New Book – <em>Me, But Better: </em></strong><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Me-But-Better-Science-Personality/dp/1668012545" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Me-But-Better-Science-Personality/dp/1668012545</a> </p><p>• <strong>Dave Asprey’s New Book - <em>Heavily Meditated</em>:</strong> <a href="https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated/</a> </p><p>• <strong>Olga's Instagram</strong> –  <a href="https://www.instagram.com/olganator/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/olganator/?hl=en</a> </p><p>• <strong>Olga’s Website<em>:</em> </strong><a href="https://olgakhazan.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://olgakhazan.com/</a> </p><p>• <strong>2025 Biohacking Conference</strong>: <a href="https://biohackingconference.com/2025" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://biohackingconference.com/2025</a> </p><p>• <strong>Danger Coffee</strong>: <a href="https://dangercoffee.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://dangercoffee.com</a> </p><p>• <strong>Dave Asprey’s Website</strong>: <a href="https://daveasprey.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://daveasprey.com</a> </p><p>• <strong>Dave Asprey’s Linktree</strong>: <a href="https://linktr.ee/daveasprey" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://linktr.ee/daveasprey</a> </p><p>• <strong>Upgrade Collective – Join The Human Upgrade Podcast Live</strong>: <a href="https://www.ourupgradecollective.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.ourupgradecollective.com</a> </p><p>• <strong>Own an Upgrade Labs</strong>: <a href="https://ownanupgradelabs.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://ownanupgradelabs.com</a> </p><p>• <strong>Upgrade Labs</strong>: <a href="https://upgradelabs.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://upgradelabs.com</a> </p><p>• <strong>40 Years of Zen – Neurofeedback Training for Advanced Cognitive Enhancement</strong>: <a href="https://40yearsofzen.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://40yearsofzen.com</a> </p><p><br></p><p> </p><p><strong>Timestamps:</strong> </p><p>• <strong>0:00</strong> — Trailer </p><p>• <strong>1:52</strong> — Intro </p><p>• <strong>2:16</strong> — Personality Changes and Neuroticism </p><p>• <strong>5:38</strong> — Postpartum Personality Shifts </p><p>• <strong>10:21</strong> — Gratitude and Cultural Beliefs </p><p>• <strong>18:13</strong> — Anger Management and Empathy </p><p>• <strong>32:58</strong> — Personality Traits and Boundaries </p><p>• <strong>35:46</strong> — The Importance of Strong Boundaries </p><p>• <strong>36:07</strong> — Personality Change as Self-Improvement </p><p>• <strong>37:22</strong> — The Role of Medication in Personality Cha