<p>When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone?</p> <p>Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare?</p> <p>In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen.</p> <p>Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism.</p> <p>This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow.</p> <p>In this interview, you'll learn:</p> <p>How to Stop Performing for Love</p> <p>How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship</p> <p>How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable</p> <p>How to Build Connection Through Acceptance</p> <p>How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive</p> <p>How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time”</p> <p>How to Love Without Trying to Fix</p> <p>Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty.</p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong><em>Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>here</em></strong></a><strong><em>. </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection</p> <p>03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early</p> <p>06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability</p> <p>11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself?</p> <p>13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship</p> <p>20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More?</p> <p>25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too?</p> <p>28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session</p> <p>44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions</p> <p>47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict</p> <p>51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love</p> <p>57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met?</p> <p>01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences</p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiIETTq2It3OzW8_WYRPTyQ">YouTube</a></p> <p>Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/">Instagram</a></p> <p>Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/">Website</a></p> <p><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696">Dear Therapists Podcast</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216?ref_=ast_author_dp">Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>