<p>Have you been feeling anxious lately?</p> <p>Do you notice when your mind starts to spiral?</p> <p>Jay welcomes back his good friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein for a deep and inspiring conversation about true inner healing. Together, they unpack Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, which reimagines Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) as a practice anyone can bring into their daily life. Gabby shares how the parts of us we often judge, the anxious part, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the one who needs control, aren’t our enemies. They’re parts that have been trying to protect us, even if they sometimes get in the way.</p> <p>As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Gabby unpack why so many of us get caught in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and emotional disconnection. Gabby shares her simple four-step “check-in” practice, a way to pause, look inward, and start building a kinder relationship with ourselves. Through this process, she explains, we can start to recognize our patterns, meet them with compassion and find peace even in the midst of life’s noise.</p> <p>Together, they unpack powerful questions we can all relate to: Why is it easier to comfort others than ourselves? Could our inner critic actually be trying to protect us? And how can we set boundaries without losing our empathy or warmth?</p> <p>In this interview, you'll learn:</p> <p>How to Befriend Every Part of Yourself</p> <p>How to Recognize Your Inner Protectors</p> <p>How to Heal Through Compassion, Not Control</p> <p>How to Calm Your Inner Critic</p> <p>How to Create Boundaries Without Guilt</p> <p>How to Self-Soothe When You Feel Triggered</p> <p>Healing doesn’t mean fixing what’s broken, it means learning to see every part of yourself with compassion and curiosity. The parts of you that once felt heavy or hard to love are often the same ones that carried you through the toughest moments. </p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong><em>Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>here</em></strong></a><strong><em>. </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>03:29 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy?</p> <p>06:00 Healing Deep Trauma Through IFS</p> <p>08:38 Where Real Healing From Trauma Begins</p> <p>10:17 Blending Therapy with Spiritual Connection</p> <p>13:38 Strengthen Your Own Spiritual Foundation</p> <p>16:57 The Four-Step Self Check-In Practice</p> <p>20:32 The Journey Toward Feeling Truly Great</p> <p>25:39 Finding Peace Without External Validation</p> <p>26:46 We All Have An Inner Spiritual Power</p> <p>31:00 Seeing Self-Judgment as a Form of Protection</p> <p>33:40 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself</p> <p>36:24 Connecting with the Parts That Protect You</p> <p>41:45 Why Facing Yourself Feels So Hard</p> <p>47:33 Healing Starts When You Do the Work</p> <p>49:54 The Power of Forgiving Yourself </p> <p>55:57 Every Part of You Serves a Purpose</p> <p>57:46 What Changes When You Befriend Your Inner Parts</p> <p>59:00 The Truth About High Performers and Inner Peace</p> <p>01:01:45 How to Set Boundaries with Love and Clarity</p> <p>01:08:47 Gabby on Final Five </p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Gabrielle Bernstein | <a href="https://gabbybernstein.com/">Website</a></p> <p>Gabrielle Bernstein | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbybernsteinofficial">TikTok</a></p> <p>Gabrielle Bernstein | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/">Instagram</a></p> <p>Gabrielle Bernstein | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein/">Facebook</a></p> <p>Gabrielle Bernstein | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/GabrielleBernstein">YouTube</a></p> <p><a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/24ayLlNtpav44vsHPdeNi1?si=k7gXWUxpTsWjD_S_Ph-gPA&nd=1&dlsi=51b393753b22474e">Dear Gabby</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Self-Help-This-Chance-Change/dp/1401976662">Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life</a></p> <p><a href="https://bit.ly/4qORc0x">Gabby's 21-day Manifesting Challenge</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>