<p> </p> <p>This episode is brought to you by <a href="https://www.fatty15.com/everforward">Fatty15</a>, <a href="https://www.drinklmnt.com/everforward">LMNT</a> and <a href="https://www.audibletrial.com/everforward">Audible.</a></p> <p>In this gripping and mind-opening conversation, Yale psychiatrist and author Dr. James Kimmel Jr. joins us to explore one of humanity's most primal urges—revenge. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, and personal experience, Dr. Kimmel explains how revenge mimics addiction in the brain and why many of us unknowingly suffer from “revenge cravings.” He shares a deeply personal story of nearly acting on revenge as a teenager, the lessons he learned as a litigator-turned-researcher, and practical, science-backed ways to break the cycle. From mass shootings and bullying to road rage and “revenge bodies,” this episode dives deep into the psychology of retaliation, the illusion of justice, and how forgiveness may be the ultimate act of self-healing.</p> <p>-----</p> <p><strong>In this episode we discuss...</strong></p> <p>03:25 – What is revenge? Real-life examples and dangers<br data-start="1597" data-end="1600"> 06:39 – Legal revenge: Lawyers as licensed avengers<br data-start="1678" data-end="1681"> 11:30 – The definition of grievance and how it fuels revenge<br data-start="1741" data-end="1744"> 16:00 – Mass shooters and "grievance collectors"<br data-start="1792" data-end="1795"> 17:35 – Dr. Kimmel’s personal revenge story<br data-start="1838" data-end="1841"> 25:02 – Masculinity, shame, and revenge<br data-start="1880" data-end="1883"> 28:27 – Why revenge seems inevitable<br data-start="1919" data-end="1922"> 30:15 – Why bullies see themselves as victims<br data-start="1967" data-end="1970"> 33:38 – The monster isn't people—it's the craving for revenge<br data-start="2031" data-end="2034"> 35:22 – Justice vs. punishment in addiction and revenge<br data-start="2089" data-end="2092"> 37:54 – Can we solve revenge like an addiction?<br data-start="2139" data-end="2142"> 40:45 – The neuroscience of revenge cravings<br data-start="2186" data-end="2189"> 44:18 – Legal vs. illegal retaliation and the arrow of time<br data-start="2248" data-end="2251"> 49:24 – Dr. Kimmel’s revenge addiction as a lawyer<br data-start="2301" data-end="2304"> 53:06 – The pain of inflicting pain on others<br data-start="2349" data-end="2352"> 56:04 – The Miracle Court mental role-play<br data-start="2394" data-end="2397"> 58:45 – Neuroscience of forgiveness<br data-start="2432" data-end="2435"> 01:00:05 – Justice vs. revenge: How language shapes violence<br data-start="2495" data-end="2498"> 01:05:21 – Why revenge escalates: evolutionary roots<br data-start="2550" data-end="2553"> 01:15:58 – Revenge body & revenge sex: healthy or harmful?<br data-start="2611" data-end="2614"> 01:20:04 – Road rage and everyday revenge<br data-start="2655" data-end="2658"> 01:21:26 – Hollywood’s revenge addiction: From Kill Bill to The Lion King<br data-start="2731" data-end="2734"> 01:28:27 – GLP-1 drugs and reducing revenge cravings<br data-start="2786" data-end="2789"> 01:32:43 – Forgiveness as the fastest cure<br data-start="2831" data-end="2834"> 01:36:17 – Living Ever Forward: Forgiveness as freedom</p> <p>-----</p> <p><em>Episode resources:</em></p> <ul> <li>Save an additional 15% on C15:0 essential fatty acid with code EVERFORWARD at <a href="https://www.fatty15.com/everforward">https://www.Fatty15.com/everforward</a></li> <li>FREE variety sample pack with any electrolyte purchase at <a href="https://www.drinklmnt.com/everforward">https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward</a></li> <li>FREE 30-day trial of Audible at <a href="https://www.audibletrial.com/everforward">https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward</a></li> <li>Watch and subscribe on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/everforwardradio">YouTube</a></li> <li>Learn more at <a href="https://www.jameskimmeljr.com/">JamesKimmelJr.com</a></li> </ul>