<p>In this episode, <strong>Ellen Hendriksen</strong> discusses the hidden costs of perfectionism and why you never feel good enough. She shares the various ways <strong>perfectionism</strong> disguises itself as a positive trait—when in reality, it can lead to <strong>self-criticism, procrastination, and emotional exhaustion</strong>. Ellen also explains why perfectionism is less about being perfect and more about <strong>never feeling good enough</strong>, how <strong>self-acceptance</strong> is the antidote, and why <strong>procrastination is actually an emotional regulation problem</strong> (not a time management issue).</p> <p><strong>Key Takeaways:</strong></p> <ul> <li><strong>(01:02)</strong> – Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect—it’s about never feeling good enough</li> <li><strong>(03:26)</strong> – The two wolves of perfectionism: Conscientiousness vs. Self-Criticism</li> <li><strong>(07:36)</strong> – Overevaluation: When self-worth gets tangled with performance</li> <li><strong>(16:57)</strong> – Guided Drift: Mr. Rogers’ surprising philosophy on perfection and mistakes</li> <li><strong>(26:51)</strong> – The power of self-compassion: You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy</li> <li><strong>(39:40)</strong> – <em>Emotional Perfectionism: The toxic belief that you “shouldn’t” feel a certain way</em></li> <li><strong>(43:59)</strong> – <em>Why procrastination is actually about emotion management—not time management</em></li> <li><strong>(50:46)</strong> – <em>How to release past mistakes and stop ruminating over failures</em><strong></strong></li> </ul> <p><strong>For full show notes,<a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/the-hidden-cost-of-perfectionism/"> click here</a>!</strong></p> <p>If you enjoyed this episode with Ellen Hendriksen, check out these other episodes:</p> <p>How to Overcome Perfectionism and Create Your Best Work with David Kadavy</p> <p>How to Manage Social Anxiety and The Inner Critic with Ellen Hendriksen</p> <p>Being a Procrastinator with Tim Pychyl</p> <p><strong>Connect with the show:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Follow us on YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TheOneYouFeedPod">@TheOneYouFeedPod</a></li> <li>Subscribe on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/ms/podcast/the-one-you-feed/id792555885">Apple Podcasts</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/4byxEuJGV8xnxlgoqHQxxs">Spotify</a></li> <li>Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/one_you_feed/">Instagram</a></li> </ul><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>