<p>In this episode, Luke Burgis explores the question, “Are your desires really yours?” and how to recognize and reclaim what you truly want. He discusses how to tell the difference between “thin desires (fleeting, imitated wants) and “thick desires” (the deeper longings that bring lasting fulfillment), and why discerning between the two can change the direction of your life. Luke also shares practices for uncovering your true hierarchy of values, creating alignment between what you want and who you want to be. Explore how to pivot from “I don’t want to” to “I do want to, I just dono’t feel like it” and how to feed the desires that lead to meaning instead of comparison or regret.</p><p><strong>Exciting News!!!</strong></p><p>Coming in March, 2026, my new book, <a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/book-episode%20show%20notes" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life</em></strong> is now available for pre-orders!</a></p><p><strong>Key Takeaways:</strong></p><ul><li>Exploration of the concept of mimetic desire and its origins in the work of René Girard.</li><li>Discussion on how desires are often imitative and influenced by others rather than being inherently personal.</li><li>The importance of discerning between beneficial and harmful desires in one’s life.</li><li>The parable of the two wolves as a metaphor for the internal conflict between positive and negative desires.</li><li>Differentiation between “thin desires” (fleeting and influenced by external factors) and “thick desires” (deeply rooted in personal values and identity).</li><li>The role of self-reflection and narrative in understanding one’s desires and motivations.</li><li>The significance of establishing a hierarchy of values to guide decision-making and desire cultivation.</li><li>The impact of social interactions on shaping desires and the responsibility individuals have in influencing others.</li><li>The concept of “stalking your greatest desire” as a means to align personal desires with one’s life mission.</li><li>The importance of having a trusted partner for exploring and communicating desires, emphasizing the value of attentive listening.</li></ul><p><br></p><p>For full show notes,<a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/are-your-desires-really-yours/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> click here</a>!</p><p><strong>Connect with the show:</strong></p><ul><li>Follow us on YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TheOneYouFeedPod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@TheOneYouFeedPod</a></li><li>Subscribe on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/ms/podcast/the-one-you-feed/id792555885" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Apple Podcasts</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/4byxEuJGV8xnxlgoqHQxxs" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Spotify</a></li><li>Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/one_you_feed/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, check out these other episodes:</p><p><a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/how-to-find-zest-in-life/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John Kaag</a></p><p><a href="https://www.oneyoufeed.net/finding-zen-in-the-ordinary/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Finding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher Keevil</a></p><p>By p<em>urchasing products and/or services from o</em>ur sponsors<em>, you a</em>re <em>helpi</em>ng to<em> support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it</em>. Thank you!</p><p><strong>This episode is sponsored by</strong>:</p><p><a href="https://www.personanutrition.com/FEED" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Persona Nutrition </a>delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to <a href="https://www.personanutrition.com/FEED" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>PersonaNutrition.com/FEED</strong></a> today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — <strong>get 40% off your first order.</strong></p><p><a href="http://www.growtherapy.com/feed" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Grow Therapy </a>– Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit <a href="http://www.growtherapy.com/feed" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">growtherapy.com/feed </a>today!</p><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Delivering-Wow-Culture-Catalyst-Lasting/dp/1639081593" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Delivering the WOW</em></a>; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-sc