Let's talk about the small habits quietly killing your connection…  because most relationships don't fall apart from one big betrayal, they drift apart from the little things we let slide every day. In this episode I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes I see couples make over and over, from protecting your partner from the truth to keeping appreciation stuck in your head instead of saying it out loud, and giving you a practical workaround for each one. I'm also answering your live questions on setting boundaries in short-term relationships and how to start the sex conversation with a new partner. Whether you've been together six months or 60 years, every one of these skills can be learned, and I promise there's at least one mistake on this list you didn't realize you were making! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to another one of my favorite conversations! Have you ever wondered where the line actually is between loyalty and betrayal? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to unpack the messy, subjective world of infidelity in 2025. We get into the questions couples almost never ask each other… is porn cheating, is a flirty DM cheating, is fantasizing about someone else cheating… and why avoiding these conversations is often what leads to bigger ruptures down the line. I also get vulnerable about my own history as a self-described "reformed cheater," and Scott and I both open up about being on the receiving end of infidelity ourselves. We break down the real stats on who cheats and why, talk through micro-cheating and emotional affairs in the age of social media, and walk through what genuine repair looks like when trust has been broken. If you want a real, no-shame framework for defining your own relationship boundaries, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH DR. SCOTT LYONS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/  Website: https://www.drscottlyons.com/ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 4:55 What is Cheating? 9:10 Why Every Couple Needs to Define Boundaries 12:45 How to Talk About Monogamy 14:31 Are Fantasies a Form of Cheating? 17:22 Listeners Story: When Fantasies Hurt a Relationship 19:42 Infidelity Stats 22:27 Dr. Emily Opens Up About Her Past Infidelity 25:38 Recovering After Being Cheated On 29:03 Monogamy, Open Relationships & Honest Conversations 36:26 Is Micro-Cheating Actually Cheating? 39:48 Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm busting the biggest myths that are quietly running your relationship and your intimate life… the idea that men want it all the time, that women don't think about it nearly as much, that low libido means something's broken, that toys replace your partner, that your partner should just know what you like without you ever saying it out loud, and more. I'm walking through each one and replacing it with what's actually true, plus practical tools you can use tonight: how scheduling can bring back anticipation instead of killing it, why communication is its own form of intimacy, and how menopause and libido shifts don't have to mean your best years are behind you.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:55 Inside the First Live Tour Show 6:43 Myth #1: Men Always Want Sex 8:12 Myth #2: Women Don't Think About Sex 9:47 Myth #3: Low Libido Means Something's Wrong 11:22 Myth #4: Great Sex Should Be Effortless 13:40 Myth #5: Sex Toys Replace Your Partner 15:17 Myth #6: Couples Should Want Sex Equally 16:52 Myth #7: Scheduling Sex Means Trouble 19:43 Myth #8: Using Lube Means Something's Wrong 22:45 Yoga Exercises for Better Sex 25:30 Myth #9: Your Partner Should Know What You Like 26:51 Myth #10: Blue Balls Are a Medical Emergency 27:55 Myth #11: No Erection Means No Attraction 29:04 Height Differences During Doggy Style 30:49 Can Menopause Affect Libido? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, somatic practitioner Dolly Josette (aka The Pleasure Muse) is teaching us something that changed my life… how to actually listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us. We walk through a body anchor meditation to help you find your most grounded position, then move into what Dolly calls the vulva hug and cock cradle, a practice that has nothing to do with arousal and everything to do with presence, safety, and building trust with your own body. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, gone numb during sex, or struggled to know what you actually want, this episode is your foundation. Somatic work like this is how we learn to stop performing and start truly feeling, and it's a practice you can bring into your life daily, not just in the bedroom! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:23 Meet Dolly Josette & What Is Somatic Work? 4:07 Embodiment & Sexual Connection 10:56 The Holy Trinity: Body, Mind & Soul 13:07 Body Anchor Meditation 26:22 The Vulva Hug & Cradle Practices 35:08 How This Practice Changes Intimacy 41:32 Overcoming Shame Around Your Body 45:13 How Somatic Work Changes Relationships 49:45 The Power of the Pause 51:17 Why Daily Embodiment Matter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to one of my favorite conversations! That "spark" you're chasing? It might not be attraction… it might be a trauma response. I sat down with Dr. Scott Lyons to break down the difference between real, sustainable chemistry and what he calls the "trauma tingle,” that hyper-magnetic pull toward someone that actually has more to do with old wounds than genuine connection. We get into why the honeymoon-phase spark always fades (it's biochemistry, not a sign something's wrong), why "getting the spark back" might be the wrong goal entirely, and how to build the kind of attraction that actually deepens over time instead of burning out. If you've ever wondered whether you're in love or just chasing something familiar, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 3:29 Going On A Lot Of First Dates 7:30 Going On A Second Date? 10:48 Freedom vs. Commitment in Love 12:50 The Age Old Attraction Response 15:03 Discovering Your "Safety Language" 17:38 The Opposite of the "Ick" 22:50 Why Great Sex Changes Over Time 26:06 Are We Asking the Wrong Question? 29:25 Expanding Your Sexual Menu 31:27 Passion vs. Intimacy 34:10 How Couples Keep Desire Alive 39:34 Why Adventure Strengthens Relationships 43:39 The "Trauma Tingle" Explained 45:37 Healthy Attraction vs. Trauma Bonding 49:46 Intensity Isn't Intimacy 54:34 A Simple Way to Recognize Healthy Love 57:01 Why Stable Love Can Feel "Boring" 1:00:23 Final Thoughts on Building Lasting Passion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're diving into pillar four of Sex IQ: self-knowledge. This is the pillar that ties everything together, because once you understand your body (embodiment), your health, and how to collaborate with a partner, the real magic happens when you actually know what turns you on. I'm breaking down core erotic desires using Jack Morin's erotic equation: the struggle we overcame plus the triumph on the other side often reveals exactly what turns us on most. We'll talk about the pleasure thieves that block self-knowledge (stress, trauma, and shame), why mindful self-pleasure is one of the fastest paths to understanding your own arousal, and how naming what you want to feel during sex changes everything about how you ask for it. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions in bed, this episode is your permission slip to get curious about yourself again. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:51 The Fourth Pillar of Sex IQ: Self-Knowledge 3:36 Breathing Exercise 4:23 What Self-Knowledge Really Mean? 6:23 Why Self-Pleasure Is the Key to Self-Discovery 7:06 Your Core Desires 8:09 Common Struggles That Shape Your Turn-Ons 13:55 Examples of Core Desires 16:57 What Your Fantasies Reveal About You 18:03 The Pleasure Thieves 20:17 How to Put Self-Knowledge Into Practice 24:06 Weekly Self-Knowledge Action Steps 26:27 Q&A: Rebuilding Trust After a Broken Boundary 31:43 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement 00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s 01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s 05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing 08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally 10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough 11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility 14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire 16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present 18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire 23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently? 25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different 27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age 33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions 39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action 40:41 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm covering the fifth pillar of Sexual Intelligence: self-acceptance. This is the pillar that ties everything else together, because no matter how embodied, healthy, collaborative, or self-aware you are, none of it lands if you can't accept yourself as you are right now. I'm talking about the "pleasure thieves" that steal our self-acceptance, like comparison, judgment, and perfectionism, and why so much of our sexual shame was programmed into us before we even knew what was happening. I walk through a mirror exercise you can try this week, share why orgasm isn't the measure of good sex (pleasure is), and answer more listener questions. If you've ever felt like you're not enough, not sexy enough, or not doing sex "right," this episode is your reminder that you already are worthy of pleasure, exactly as you are today. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:31 Guided Breath Work to Become Present 4:17 What Self Acceptance Really Means 6:59 Why Sexual Confidence Is a Practice 8:11 Common Shame Narratives 9:49 Mirror Talk Exercise 11:54 The Three Pleasure Thieves 18:34 Weekly Self-Acceptance Challenges 25:06 Bringing the Five Sex IQ Pillars Together 26:26 Q&A: Why Do I Tense Up? 29:08 Q&A: How Can I Feel Comfortable With the Lights On? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why responsive desire is normal (not broken), why boring sex doesn't mean a boring relationship, and why communication really is a lubrication. If you've ever wondered why talking about sex feels harder than having it, or worried that losing the honeymoon phase means you're with the wrong person, this episode is for you. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:34 Lesson #1: Chemistry Isn't Enough for Lasting Intimacy 4:28 Lesson #2:Why Communication Makes Sex Better 6:05 Lesson #3: Stress Can Kill Desire 7:56 Lesson #4: Boring Sex Doesn't Mean a Boring Relationship 9:25 Lesson #5: Your Desire Changes 11:57 Lesson #6: Your Body Isn't the Enemy 13:41 Lesson #7: Choose Pleasure Over Performance 14:30 Lesson #8: Life Can Crowd Out Intimacy 15:46 Lesson #9: Great Sex Is Something You Build 17:01 Audience Q&As Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner. I also walk you through one of my favorite practices — the Sexual State of the Union — and share simple, actionable tools like the Yes!No!Maybe? list and 60-second eye contact to help you and your partner start co-creating the sex life you actually want. Whether you're partnered or flying solo, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 4:00 Breathwork to Build Presence 5:29 Why Sex Doesn't Always Mean Collaboration 08:09 Energetic Collaboration 10:36 Sexual Clarity 14:08 Examples of Collaboration 21:47 Emily AI 23:17 Why Talking About Sex Changes Everything 25:24 The Sexual State of the Union 29:55 Somatic Healing & Next Week's Workshop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices