Dopey 534: Abby Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption
Dopey 534: Abby Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption
142 minutes
Hosted by Dave

Episode Description

<p>Episode Notes!</p><p>DOPEYWOOD COMING!</p><p>AWESOME EMAILS AND VOICEMAILS!</p><p>ABBEY:</p><p>Postpartum anxiety and getting prescribed benzos</p><p>Her first time using heroin — in sober living</p><p>Moving back to Pittsburgh with her dad to get her life together</p><p>Building a YouTube following with her daughter Myla</p><p>Dealing with fame, trolls, and the dark side of "sober influencer" culture</p><p>Why she stopped posting her daughter online</p><p>Setting boundaries in co-parenting</p><p>The emotional side of recovery, relapse, and internet backlash</p><p>Her evolving relationship with recovery, privacy, and motherhood</p><p>🦪 <strong>Part 2: Ray the Clammer – A Tribute</strong></p><p>Growing up on the South Shore, catching clams <i>with his feet</i></p><p>First time freebasing: “My heart exploded. I fell to my knees. It was great.”</p><p>Ten years of coke dealing, freebasing, and losing everything</p><p>Smoking away all the product, burning bridges, losing his union job</p><p>Homeless in NYC, sleeping under Port Authority, working “security” for a pimp named Otis</p><p>Suicidal thoughts in the subway tunnels</p><p>The moment he <i>didn't</i> jump, and got back on the train to Long Island</p><p>Brought home by police as a missing person</p><p>Finds NA, relapses, gets honest — and stays sober from 1993 until his death</p><p>Devoted to service: rides, hotlines, detox speaking, always showing up</p><p>Passed away with 30 years clean — this recording was his goodbye gift to Dopey Nation</p><p> </p>

Special Guests

  • Abby Fickley
  • Ray the Clammer