Do You Care Too Much What Other People Think of You? Avoid Conflict? Say Yes When You Shouldn't? | Dr. Ingrid Clayton, Fawning Expert
Do You Care Too Much What Other People Think of You? Avoid Conflict? Say Yes When You Shouldn't? | Dr. Ingrid Clayton, Fawning Expert
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Episode Description

<p dir="ltr">Practical tools to turn down the volume on fawning.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.ingridclayton.com/">Dr. Ingrid Clayton</a> is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Her book is <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/"> FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find our Way Back.</a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What is fawning, actually </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Chronic vs situational fawning</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The physiological ramifications of fawning</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How power plays into all of this</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Ways to get clarity around unseen bruises and wounds that drive your behavior</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Owning your anger – and how to express it in healthy ways </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to know if you're a fawner </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Practical steps to unfawn  </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Accessible approaches to regulating your nervous system</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to set boundaries</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Fawning and un-fawning in a work context, specifically </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And her observation, which I've been thinking about a lot, that wounding happens in relationships… but so does healing</li> </ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">This holiday season, 10% Happier is teaming up with dozens of podcasts for an ambitious goal: to lift three entire villages in Rwanda out of extreme poverty. Join us by visiting <a href="http://givedirectly.org/Dan">GiveDirectly.org/Dan</a> and supporting the #PodsFightPoverty campaign.</p> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><span><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-regulate-your-nervous-system?utm_source=publication-search"> How To Regulate Your Nervous System For Stress, Anxiety, And Trauma | Peter Levine</a></span></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><span><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-handle-your-demons-dick-richard?utm_source=publication-search"> How To Handle Your Demons | Richard Schwartz</a></span></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><span><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-and-why-to-hug-your-inner-dragons-ac1?utm_source=publication-search"> How (and Why) to Hug Your Inner Dragons | Richard Schwartz</a></span></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><span><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/this-neurobiologist-wants-you-to-bd7?utm_source=publication-search"> This Neurobiologist Wants You To Ask One Question To Reframe Anxiety, Depression, And Trauma | Dr. Bruce Perry (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!)</a></span></li> </ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>

Special Guests

  • Dr. Ingrid Clayton