Are You a Grudge Holder or a Revenge Seeker? Here’s How It’s Hurting You – And How To Get Over It | James Kimmel, Jr.
Are You a Grudge Holder or a Revenge Seeker? Here’s How It’s Hurting You – And How To Get Over It | James Kimmel, Jr.
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72 minutes
Hosted by Dan Harris
Sponsored by Miracle Court

Episode Description

<p dir="ltr">The psychology and neuroscience of revenge.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.jameskimmeljr.com/">James Kimmel, Jr.</a> is a lecturer in psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine, an expert on revenge, a lawyer, and the founder and co-director of the Yale Collaborative for Motive Control Studies. He is the creator of The Nonjustice System, the <a href="http://miraclecourt.com/">Miracle Court</a> app, and <a href="http://savingcain.org/">SavingCain.org</a> for recovering from grievances and revenge desires and preventing mass violence. His most recent book is <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Science-Revenge-Understanding-Deadliest-Addiction/dp/0593796519"> The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World’s Deadliest Addiction—and How to Overcome It.</a></p> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The horrific and violent bullying he endured as a child—which provoked his interest in the subject of revenge</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The connection between revenge and addiction </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Our evolutionary programming for revenge</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Practical strategies for when you feel wronged</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to seek justice without revenge</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">An antidote to revenge cravings</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more</li> </ul> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan’s online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more <a href="http://eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025">here</a>!</p> <p><strong><br> <br></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>

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